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Single? Listen up. This might help. These little neat ideas is not mine, I’m sharing it because I think it will put the clue back in the clueless mind for those who haven’t come to this realization yet.

You could use it or discard it. What ever you choose, you are the master of your own universe. If you see it’ll help you out on attracting a better girlfriend, by all mean try it out.

These 2 simple tips alone will create miracles in your love life.

A few things I’ve learned from Authentic Man Program (AMP) is the power of presence work wonders. It helps you stay aware and present in whatever you do. It takes practice to hone this skill. Just like learning to ride a bike, it’ll take many attempts before you become comfortable and skilled at it. Presence essentially helps you stay in your body and enjoy the moment as it happen. I guess you can say, keep your mind quiet and still. Whether it is for dating or for your daily life, staying present and grounded is an attractive attribute to women –actually to everyone.

Have you ever talked to someone and their attention is everywhere. Distracted and can’t even focus on the conversation or the experience at the moment. Their eyes wander and their mind seems far off somewhere.

A man who can master his own mind; bring awareness and presence into his being is considered a rare commodity for women. Definitely, becoming more aware and present is of a great value. We (women) know and can pick a solid guy out from a mile away. It’s extremely attractive and undeniably sexy!

Second thing that bring wonders to your life is to stay appreciative. What is appreciation? Here’s what Authentic Man Program has to say about it, “Most guys think Appreciation is saying nice things. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. In fact, ‘Creating Profound Connections‘ has absolutely nothing to do with even being nice. It’s all about building a strong, deep level of rapport… an emotional connection that you cannot fake. ”

Everyone wants to be appreciated and acknowledged. You can start to practice appreciation by being thankful for the small things in your life. Stay in gratitude for what you have and not what you don’t have.

Man, do they work like magic. People can feel when you are being genuinely appreciative of them. Their faces will light up and smiles will start to appear. It’s contagious.

When you stay in the state of appreciation, most women will reciprocate your state of emotion and shoot back those same great feeling. It’s a great feeling at both ends. And 99% of the time you’ll get back a warm smile.

Have you ever got a genuine sincere acknowledgment from a person. They say it in such a way that you know it is from their heart. They really meant it and not just one of those generic, “Thank you. Come again.” from the cashier’s mouth. You can somehow always tell the difference.

Practice these two new habits and master them. You will not only attract a better mate but bring more fun into your life. You’ll turn many frowns around. Stay grounded in who you are. And bring quality experiences into your life far more than just the original intended goal of acquiring a girlfriend.

The only downfall is these 2 simple new habits take time to be integrated into your life. Even for me, I am still working on ‘staying present and being appreciative.’ It’s really a daily practice. You actually have to do it and gain the experience –for you to truly understand and incorporate it into your life.

Learn it, KNOW it, walk it, and you’ll be surprise how much more amazing your life can get.

San Francisco

As we wake up to each day. Remember to stay appreciative of the gifts we receive. Just being alive and granted this time –this very moment itself is a joy to be grateful for. Staying appreciative for all the small things makes life so much sweeter. So much more fulfilling. Always smile for the life. Live and Love.

Hey there!

I want to share with you this unedited yahoo chat of my friend Eric and I.  I’ve already asked him for his permission to show it with you on this blog. Although, I’ve changed the name to Eric for his privacy.

Just a little heads up, I am currently living in the Philippines and he is still back in California.

Below is our unedited chat:

Eric: Hey Faey. It’s Eric.

Me: Hey Eric. Just online browsing for course on ‘how to be authentic’. What you up to?

Eric: I am doing laundry right now. ha ha
So, have you found out how to be authentic? ha ha

Me: yep!
Do my laundry for me pls. =)

Eric: ha ha. You’re funny, Faey
Send your laundry to me through email

Me: Watch for it Now
zip…!

Eric: Wow! That’s a lot of laundry! he he he he

Me: I know…haven’t wash them for 10 months..be careful of some clothes, they’ve been dirty for quite a while.
Might have some dead snakes, I’ve killed.

Eric: LOL – okay. I’ll be careful.
But here I can just kill spiders with your dirty clothes

Me: just don’t let me know about it.

Eric: Okay I will. We have some Black widows around here. So I’ll definitely let you know.
LOL
Any plans for this weekend?

Me: do some more research on authentic women program…then watch the Authentic Man Program Mark is watching to learn about MEN…so far finish 3 cds and it is super delicious!

Eric: cool. Sounds very interesting. I’d imagine a person would gain a lot of enlightenment from it

Me: none of that tricks and fake stuff and liners to give to women …it teaches men how to access their true, REAL self…..I am so impress..
yelp…lots of insights and enlightenment…..

Eric: I see. I think a lot of people would gain from it

Me: I think of it….these programs are growing new refreshing crops of men for all the women out there….he he he…then I’ll stop hearing all the good men are taken or they’re all gay stuff. =) he he he… I mean who wouldn’t want a REAL man who knows himself, be present, and be his genuine self. Of course that would mean the woman be her true self to match with these type of REAL men too…..can’t have them nagging immature little girls. It just wouldn’t match…He he he….sorry..I am just going on and on…

Eric: It’s cool Faey. You’re always welcome to express yourself with me
I look forward to your insight
I agree with you and this program

Me: thanks for allowing me that space. so appreciated. =)

Eric: Anytime, my friend

Me: got two new insights if you are curious

Eric: Sure…I’m always open
Are you still there?

Me: sorry about that…was watching a video of Authentic Man Program
anyhow, briefly…the first 2 steps…of accessing your authentic self for Men are:
STEP 1: Presence. BE there. Not trying or thinking about being there. But actually being in the moment, enjoying it with ease. Just be at ease. Check in your body and see if you are tight in your body or rambling on in your head or fidgeting. (these are signs of you not being ‘present’). Just RELAX and be in your body. Feel instead of thinking. Just be there.
You could use this with women. Actually, you could use this with anybody, anything….especially with yourself.
Creates solidity in YOU as a person.

Eric: I like this. And I feel that I do these things right now. Because recently, I have found that I am very content with who I am as a man, as a person. I enjoy my own time & time with friends, and I don’t yearn for outrageous things.
Please continue. I’m enjoying this

Me: Good. Well done on your steps forward!  =)
STEP 2. Appreciation. This means with your interaction with women and others. You see them as another person, not just an object or target to get. But treat and see them. They too have dreams, issues, feelings, and needs.
It means stepping into their shoes feeling what they are feeling without your agenda…or for example “hummm, I see you are so warm and nurturing and etc.”
It does not mean complimenting her and making her feel good.
It’s about being there with her on the ride. Yet, you being solid in who you ARE at the same time. You CAN’T…just do step 2 or skip ahead to step 2 unless STEP 1: Presence is deep rooted and grounded in you.

Eric: Yes, you’re absolutely right. Basically, seeing each person for who they are. I think that’s why I’ve gained so many female friends. This is deep.
I’m not saying I know it all. I’m actually just analyzing everything you tell me and then I think if I’m doing that or have I applied it.
what’s step 3?

Me: want to add a little more on Step 2 still.

Eric: Oh. Ooops. Sure go ahead

Me: So like I said, it’s not about complimenting her and solely making her feel good. It’s about being THERE with her. Feeling what it IS what she is feeling. Allowing her that space. Yet you be there fully present and enjoying your interaction and being authenticly CURIOUS. (no pretense). You truly feel curious to know about her and who she is. If you do it right.
You could feel her heart open up to you. And she might stop being all bitchy and become real sweet or tone down…she’ll feel…wow this person really SEES me.
This will create intimate connection with them.
for love or for friendships..many types of intimacy
Interests will build between the two individuals….
Boom! relationship is created…
Takes practice…..

Eric: After reading this, I really feel that many Americans could benefit from this knowledge
And I agree on so many accounts with the steps you’ve provided to me

Me: glad you like it.
Oh and remember, just one more thing. The whole time you are being YOU — stay REAL to who you are.

Eric: Right.
I’ve gotten into Zen philosophy, It’s really helped me
It is similar with its outlooks on life, respect and responsibility

Me: Nice. Love zen….

Eric: I want to be a modern day Jazz Monk

Me: hey Eric…I going to have to cut it short….starting some more training soon. BTW, can I use this yahoo IM conversation for me blog?

Eric: Sure. Go ahead

Me: he he he…’modern day JAZZ Monk’ i could see that.

Eric: Have a good day/night

Me: Alright, ttyl. In the meantime time chill out…or should I say keep it jazzy… =)

[Date: 08-23-2009 Yahoo IM]

Thank you for visiting me today. And love to hear what you have to say.

Until next time!

-Faey