What’s inner game versus outer game? Authentic Man Program’s (AMP) co-founder, Bryan Bayer breaks down the difference by using the image of the Celtic tree. The Celtic tree is an ancient symbol of wholeness that illustrates the relationship between “who we are” (inner game) and “how we show up” (outer game).
AMP says, “These days, a lot of guys are studying the art pickup. And, if those pickup/outer game skills aren’t connected to a solid foundation of inner game, those men will never create relationship as wild, sexy and fulfilling as they can truly be.”
AMP adds, “Even if your outer game is masterful it is a only a matter of time before any woman will see who you are at the roots. You can’t hide it and you can’t fake it. And the more radiant the woman is the faster she will see right down to the base of it often instantly.”
Such an amazing explanation!
Recently I went to a concert to see Boyce Avenue, Jabbawockeez, and Kris Allen at MusicFest 2010 in Cebu, Philippines. Boyce Avenue’s lead singer, Alejandro Manzano really carried himself self well. He showed up incredibly sexy. I said to myself, “This guy’s got inner game going on! Wow!”
When Kris Allen performed…he didn’t have it. As talented as Kris is, he felt hollow to me. He needs to do more inner work and build his foundation. Won American Idol but he’s not showing up as a grounded solid guy. Not attractive compared to Boyce Avenue’s Alejandro who’s roots just over shadowed Kris. It was such a contrast I even left after Kris sang his first couple songs!
When we start chasing things outside ourself, it’s easy to ignore our roots. Then it becomes even more challenging to attract the people we want to attract. Remember: We’re drawn towards the healthy trees – strong and grounded. We ignore the weak ones with flimsy roots.
Single? Listen up. This might help. These little neat ideas is not mine, I’m sharing it because I think it will put the clue back in the clueless mind for those who haven’t come to this realization yet.
You could use it or discard it. What ever you choose, you are the master of your own universe. If you see it’ll help you out on attracting a better girlfriend, by all mean try it out.
These 2 simple tips alone will create miracles in your love life.
A few things I’ve learned from Authentic Man Program (AMP) is the power of presence work wonders. It helps you stay aware and present in whatever you do. It takes practice to hone this skill. Just like learning to ride a bike, it’ll take many attempts before you become comfortable and skilled at it. Presence essentially helps you stay in your body and enjoy the moment as it happen. I guess you can say, keep your mind quiet and still. Whether it is for dating or for your daily life, staying present and grounded is an attractive attribute to women –actually to everyone.
Have you ever talked to someone and their attention is everywhere. Distracted and can’t even focus on the conversation or the experience at the moment. Their eyes wander and their mind seems far off somewhere.
A man who can master his own mind; bring awareness and presence into his being is considered a rare commodity for women. Definitely, becoming more aware and present is of a great value. We (women) know and can pick a solid guy out from a mile away. It’s extremely attractive and undeniably sexy!
Second thing that bring wonders to your life is to stay appreciative. What is appreciation? Here’s what Authentic Man Program has to say about it, “Most guys think Appreciation is saying nice things. This couldn’t be farther from the truth. In fact, ‘Creating Profound Connections‘ has absolutely nothing to do with even being nice. It’s all about building a strong, deep level of rapport… an emotional connection that you cannot fake. ”
Everyone wants to be appreciated and acknowledged. You can start to practice appreciation by being thankful for the small things in your life. Stay in gratitude for what you have and not what you don’t have.
Man, do they work like magic. People can feel when you are being genuinely appreciative of them. Their faces will light up and smiles will start to appear. It’s contagious.
When you stay in the state of appreciation, most women will reciprocate your state of emotion and shoot back those same great feeling. It’s a great feeling at both ends. And 99% of the time you’ll get back a warm smile.
Have you ever got a genuine sincere acknowledgment from a person. They say it in such a way that you know it is from their heart. They really meant it and not just one of those generic, “Thank you. Come again.” from the cashier’s mouth. You can somehow always tell the difference.
Practice these two new habits and master them. You will not only attract a better mate but bring more fun into your life. You’ll turn many frowns around. Stay grounded in who you are. And bring quality experiences into your life far more than just the original intended goal of acquiring a girlfriend.
The only downfall is these 2 simple new habits take time to be integrated into your life. Even for me, I am still working on ‘staying present and being appreciative.’ It’s really a daily practice. You actually have to do it and gain the experience –for you to truly understand and incorporate it into your life.
Learn it, KNOW it, walk it, and you’ll be surprise how much more amazing your life can get.
Today, I just want to applaud the work Authentic Man Program (AMP) does. Growing us new crops of genuine men. Isn’t that just fabulous, I mean I hear other women often complain. “I just can’t find a good man anywhere. They are either married or gay.” How many times have you heard that?
Which is why, I am so proud to introduce to you what Travis Decker and Bryan Bayer are doing for the men community. They committed themselves to helping men who are interested in developing themselves and building their authenticity of who they really are. What can be more intriguing and worthy of our (women) attention than that?
The bad news is we women probably aren’t allow into their workshops unless we are part of the women discussion panel of AMP. However, we can peek at their CDs and see what the men are actually doing. Sshhhh!
Decker and Bryan had started a movement in San Francisco to build strong men. Men who honestly desire the deep meaningful connection with us women and within themselves. Nothing is sexier than that! These are NOT men who are taught to use gimmicks to fool us into falling for them but real honest men with integrity and desire to be strong in who they are. Who truly wants to love themselves and share their presence and appreciation with us.
I’m honored to write this post to acknowledge their efforts and urged all women out there that want to support their men to support AMP men by perhaps forwarding this blog post to any men in your life that may be searching for the very same thing Authentic Man Program are offering. That is to be in love and strong in who they are as a man because they are truly being the best of themselves.
Below is the link to a short video clip from Bryan giving us a preview -inside of what AMP is. And how 90% of the challenges with us women (for men) is traced down to this 1 thing…
Listen to The New Man (Tripp Lanier: men’s coach and host of The New Man podcast) talk with Bryan Bayer and Garrison Cohen of the Authentic Man Program. This interview is great; unlike others, this interview is just like talking to some of your guy friends. But for women — WARNING: The conversation has some strong word use. It’s a very male conversation since it’s tailor to men.
Tripp Lanier is a great host despite his swearing. His enthusiasm is contagious. There’s lots of valuable information. It’s not just for men. It’s an inside scoop for women to better understand our men too.
This audio talks about men being honest with themselves and what they want. It covers: how men sell themselves short by tolerating stuff and then feeling like shit. How they are left feeling empty, and out of integrity because they’ve agreed to something that they really didn’t want to. How men are withholding their true feelings and denying their emotions or upsets. And how this actually impedes their progress and suffocates their own self. But most importantly, it tells the men what to do to tear down these obstacles and bring back their integrity and power!
Relationship out of integrity? Best place to start is to work on you. To be open to your feelings and honest of your own truth. The more you can do this…the more your presence, appreciation, and integrity radiates in your life. You’re not just being the ‘nice guy’ or ‘nice gal’ so others will approve and accept you. Calling it out in yourself. Embodying your truth. Let yourself out.
The Authentic Man Program helps men break through that barrier and unleash the authentic man within.
