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Please welcome Janeen Clark. A Spiritual Life Coach, who has been teaching, studying and applying the Law of Attraction for almost 20 years.  Below is one of her inspiring articles I like to share with you today:

Law of Attraction: How to Stay Positive When Surrounded by Constant Negativity

By Janeen Clark

Wow! You’ve just got to love these recent newspaper headlines and news broadcasts, don’t you?

According to them our world is completely falling apart. Oh wait…that’s right, according to them it is always falling apart…Oh well.

Shocking how we somehow keep surviving isn’t it?

It is not only the newspapers that surround us with negative thoughts and energy but also the people we work with, friends, and even family members.

So how are we supposed to maintain a higher positive vibration when almost everyone around us is predicting doom and gloom for our future and our economy?

The following steps might help:

1. Go Back To Appreciating The Basics

If you have food you can eat today, clothes to keep you warm, a roof over your head, a mind that works and a heart that is still beating – you are GOOD!

Anything beyond that can be considered an added bonus.

It really doesn’t matter if the food is not lobster, the clothes designer, the house a mansion, you don’t have the perfect body, or the perfect romance. As long as you have the basics listed above you will be able to obtain the rest.

Do not waste your energy thinking negatively about yourself because you do not have some of the extras just mentioned. There’s always tomorrow and you’ll find a way.

2. STOP Reading The Papers And Watching The News For Awhile

Simply STOP! Even if it is for only a couple of weeks. Turn it off. Play music instead, watch some of your favorite comedy DVDs, listen to inspirational books on tape. Don’t worry about missing anything. I promise you, next month they will have the same exact horror stories in the paper – it’ll be like you never left.

3. If You Have The Ability To Leave A Negative Conversation – Run For The Hills

Here is the scenario. Someone starts the conversation about how horrible things are in the world. You respond in agreement, so do the others in the group. Now you all feel the fear.

Depression and hopelessness settles over the group. The subject now moves to politics. You all disagree with each other (which of course you do because it seems lately NO ONE can agree on the politics thing.)

Now you all get angry. You yell, call each other naive, strive to get your point across but nobody hears it anyway. Now you all walk away angry and frustrated.

So where did this conversation get you? Depressed, hopeless, fearful, angry and frustrated. And guess what? Absolutely nothing was accomplished! Nothing has changed in Washington. You didn’t solve the housing crisis or lower gas prices, but you probably just made enemies with some of your best friends or family members. So what is the point?

Decide that you no longer want to participate in these useless negative battles. Life is too short to spend it arguing with loved ones when nothing get resolved anyway. Besides, it certainly isn’t going to help you keep a positive vibration. Go do something that will make you happy. Go online to a comedy site – go read a book. Keep in mind that maintaining a positive vibration is the healthiest and most important thing you can do for yourself right now.

4. If You Do Not Have The Ability to Leave A Negative Conversation – Put Yourself In Your Own Happy Mental Bubble

Now let’s say this negative conversation takes place over a business dinner or around the Thanksgiving table and leaving is not an option.

Put yourself in an invisible Happy bubble. Inside this bubble you are always peaceful. You are not affected by what is going on outside of it. You may observe, you may listen to what is going on, but you refuse to participate in any way.

Imagine that you are watching a fictional movie. None of what you are hearing is affecting you personally. It is simply entertainment. Hum you favorite song in your head. Think of a funny memory. If someone asks your opinion tell them you weren’t paying attention. You were in your “happy place”.

They might look at you like you are crazy or attempt to draw you in to the conversation anyway, but eventually they will get it. And the next time they are arguing and see you with that silly smile on your face they will simply inform the others “Oh don’t bother with them, they are in their happy place” and you go back to having fun.

5. Don’t Let The Nay-Sayers Get To You

Keep in mind that according to people the world is “always” falling apart. You could go back 100 years or more and you would hear the same exact complaints you hear today. “Things are getting way too expensive”, “the next generation is so spoiled”, “the next generation is so disrespectful or irresponsible”, “there is no one good to vote for”, “the economy is in trouble”, “an energy crisis looms”, and the all most important “this country is going to hell in a hand basket” scenario.

Here’s the deal. Energy moves and changes constantly. It always has and always will. The people going through those energy changes have always felt uncomfortable when those changes come about and automatically assume the outcome is gong to be negative. Yet, we are all still here and creating more than ever. In fact we have more conveniences and are more technologically advanced than we ever thought was possible in so short a period of time.

Don’t feed into the “fear of the future” nonsense. Change is normal. Change is good. Change is growth. Go with the flow instead of fighting it. Look for the opportunities these new changes can bring you instead of fighting the current and trying to keep things the same; because the truth is, things are not going to stay the same anyway.

6. Remember That Even In Times Of “Crisis” People Can Be Successful And Flourish

Just because you hear about the negative around you, doesn’t mean you need to be affected by it personally. There have always been people who have prospered during what others called “hard times”. People who were successful even when there was a war on, when real estate was depressed, when there was a recession or even the Depression.

Decide that not only will you not be negatively affected by the changes going on around you but that you are absolutely going to find a way to prosper from them.

Think positively and constantly ask your higher self, “What move can I make right now that will make me prosper?” Keep asking and asking. Suddenly inspirational thoughts will seem to come out of nowhere. Keep your thoughts on possibilities – not fear.

Focusing on fear only lowers your vibration and makes you much less effective. Keep your mind and eyes open for opportunities. Keep your vibration high. Remind yourself daily that you are safe and healthy and abundant regardless of what is going on around you. Which leads us to…

7. Remember Who You Really Are

Remember “You are not a human being in search of a spiritual experience. You are a spiritual being immersed in a human experience”.

When you keep this in mind, you remember how big you really are and where your true power lies.

You may be “on” this planet but not “of” it – which means the planet does not dictate what happens to you – only you can do that.

Fear comes from thinking that you have no control. That others are making decisions that affect you and there is nothing you can do about it.

But that is not the case. YOU create every experience you have while down here and YOU decide what you are going to create.

This is the most important thing of all to remember.

Imagine it as if you are going to an amusement park for the day.

The “park” doesn’t decide what you are going to do all day – You do. You decide the rides you want to go on or the rides that don’t interest you. Just because the rides are “there” does not mean you are forced to go on them.

The same with our planet. Just because the “negative experiences” exist, does not mean you have to participate in them. The choice is up to you.

So go be positive, look ahead. Find ways to be abundant regardless of what is happening around you. Keep your vibration high. Do something everyday that increases that vibration until the momentum is so great that you are manifesting wonderful things almost instantaneously! The power is in your hands.

Happy Creating!

Watch short video: Daily Affirmation – How To Positively Talk To Yourself

Read article: 3 Tips For Raising Your Vibration

Read article: How To Protect Yourself From Negative Energy In Your Environment

A man will rescue you. The damsel in distress gets her paradise eventually when prince charming comes for her, right? What a detrimental belief to install in us women — in fact, in ANYONE for that matter. It harms us by teaching us to wait for things to happen instead of taking care of ourselves and creating the life we want. It takes our power away.

I hate to burst your bubbles ladies, but in reality, there’s no hero to save us. No prince charming. No Romeo. No superman. The hero is hidden inside yourself. We are the helpless damsel hopelessly waiting because that’s the story that keeps the hero hidden.

Let’s take Taylor Swifts’ song, “Love Story” and somehow Romeo does come for you and sweep you off your feet. You get married so you’ll never have to be alone again. You’re taken away from the current situation you don’t want to be in. Now what?

Yes you are married to him, but still you have to live with yourself. Face yourself every night and day. If you felt lonely or whatever and thought a man could save you from it… Take you out of it. You’re right. Temporarily. But deep down, you’ll always be back with yourself again. And those same emotions will be there waiting for you. Unless you face your feelings. No man is going to cover that up.

I’m not talking bad about having a man. They are wonderful. Great adventures and experiences can happen with them. And you can speed your personal growth and development. He can be a reflection for you like a second set of eyes to see the things you can not see.

But sitting around waiting for things to happen – waiting for your life to start – can take forever. You could be dead by that time you begin. Who knows.

Solution is to notice this belief exists in you. Then realize it’s not working (not now, not ever). After you do this you can adopt a new belief that works for you better.

Read article: How to ReWRITE Your Future

Ever feel cluttered by old beliefs? When you try on a new belief (e.g. affirmations) it feels like you’re just masking over what’s already there. Like trying to redecorate in a room full of junk.

I’m excited because I found a way to rewrite our future! First step is throwing out the clutter. You’ll finally enjoy  affirmations and reaching your goals because all that mess will be out of your way. Ready to play and paint a fresh new life? Let’s start with a clean canvas…

According to Dave Logan and Steve Zaffron’s book “3 Laws of Performance: Rewriting the Future of Your Organization and Your Life“ we can pinpoint our stuck beliefs and erase them. How do we do this? First we take a deep look at WHY we’re keeping our fixed belief rolling. Why we’re keeping this alive when we know it is sabotaging our growth and who we CAN become.

Let’s do this step-by-step:

1. Ask what are the PAYOFFS? In other words, what are you gaining by playing these stories over and over again. How are you benefiting from them? In what ways do you think you’re gaining from living with this belief?

For example, say I tell myself I am fat. By doing this, my payoffs are:
- I can eat whatever I want
- I don’t have to be responsible for others because I got myself to take care off
- I get to be lazy
- I can watch movie or do whatever I want instead of using the time to exercise
- I get the attention or sympathy
- I don’t have to feel
- I don’t have to be responsible for my health
- I don’t have to learn
- I can keep telling others my stories
- I feel I have the right to complain that I am fat
- And maybe for so some odd reason, you feel you have the reason to relate with others…

Just keep listing all the thoughts and statements that are coming up, don’t judge it…list all of them until you have no more or you experience it is complete for you.

2. What are the COSTS? And list all the things that are coming up for you that are harming you. By telling and living this fixed belief or habit what is it costing you? How is it hurting you in your life?

For instance, telling myself I am fat:
- I am hurting my own self image
- I create more hatred for me and my body image
- I am getting more lazy
- I see myself less
- I feel defeated
- I am tired a lot
- I go out less
- I eat more
- I make poorer food choices
- I make more excuses
- I move away from my goal of gaining a healthier lifestyle
- I have more fear
- I am sad
- I dislike myself, etc.

Again, keep listing all the costs until you have no more.

This will take as long as you need. Some people take only a few minutes to do this while others takes days. It depends highly on you, whether if this is a deep issue for you. The goal here is to bring all the “STUFF” out so you can see pass all the veils that’s hiding these sabotaging thoughts. Look at all perspective, at its naked core and see why you keep doing what you are doing up to this point. Until then, can we truly sever the cord that binds us to these self defeating thoughts, beliefs, and old habits.

When we fully bring awareness  to all the reasons we think we do these things, why we feel we have to do it…we can finally reveal the truth for what it is and see how detriment this habit or belief is to us and our progress toward who we want to be. And finally cut the the cord.

Meet Rita Loyd. An artist, who through her art was able to transform her life and learn the importance of self-love.  As Rita puts it,

“Through this journey I have learned a great deal about self-love. And I now have learned how to implement self-love into all areas of my life. Some of the most important things I have learned about self-love are : Self-love is an ongoing process and it needs our nurturing every day. Self-love is about paying attention to what is going on with ourselves ~ spirit, mind and body instead of ignoring, avoiding, neglecting or numbing ourselves from the truth. And Self-love is about learning to speak to ourself, treat ourself and envision ourself with love, support and encouragement, in all areas of our life…. And nothing less.”

“Masked”

At times I hide behind a mask,
disguising who I am
and the frailties that I possess.
But then
the voice of my spirit emerges
and reminds me that
we all fall short of perfection.
And that those who appear perfect
are wearing a mask as well.
So, instead of hiding,
I am prompted to embrace
my imperfections with love.
and with this inner shift
of self acceptance,
a radiance shines forth
surpassing any physical adornment
I could ever possibly hide behind.

© 2000 Rita Loyd

Check out more of Rita’s work at www.NurturingArt.com